Today I want to debunk the lies about kids not needing you. For example, you are told that you should go to work when the kids are babies or when they become teenagers or in high school, because they don’t need you as much at that age. If you are a working mom listen to me carefully; I am not putting you down or telling you to stop. To all moms who are working outside the home, working at home, stay at home moms; my advice is for all of you!
No matter the age our children they always need, direction or guidance, love, hugs, reassurance, a solid foundation. These things are what helps make strong, independent, self confident children/adults.
Let’s start at infancy, the basic foundations start here. Take time everyday to comfort, love, talk, sing, or read to your baby. As they move to toddlerhood, they need direction, discipline, love, cuddles, reassurance. Play with your toddler let them know you are there. If you start disciplining and giving time at this young age; things will go much smoother down the road. School age kids are given more responsibility and they need to know you believe in them and have time for them. See my key word here, TIME. So matter what your schedule is your first priority is your children!
As the kids become teenagers they will need you to be their venting board, some advice, as they are trying to figure out who they are and what they believe. The hardest years for kids in my opinion. Be there to hear all about their day, good or bad, or maybe friend issues. My advice here is to listen and ask if they want your opinion about the situation. Sometimes they just need to talk about it, then they are fine. Do not just let your teenager storm off to their room or say they don’t want to talk about something. I always give my teenagers a few minutes in their room, then I go sit on their bed and have them tell me what feelings they are having; this can be happy, mad, and sad all at the same time. This is completely normal for kids. This is the age you can really develop mutual respect to start a friendship with your child.
On to high school. Yes the kids are becoming more independent and the schools encourage total responsibility and independence. These are fantastic things; with the exception we are still the parents and responsible until they are 18 years old. We are in charge of getting them to school on time, feeding them, making sure they are healthy, calling in absences, making sure their homework is done, and their grades are up to par. So yes our kids and the school still need us. High schoolers are still vulnerable, still figuring out what they believe, hopefully this is getting much stronger but remember they need guidance since they are typically 13-18 years old. This is a great time for figuring out who they are and what they want to do in the future. These kids have a lot of pressure on them. If they want to do sports, sing in the choir, take art, encourage them. You are their #1 cheerleader. They need to know that you have their backs and believe in them. This is a very important time to have time for them. Make sure you have time to hug, listen and advise them.
So at any age do not be afraid to hug, kiss and love on your child. Kids will follow your example. The more you invest in your kids the more you will get out of it as they grow. I truly believe your children will thrive if you build into them.
Follow your heart, not society!
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