As my teenager stormed off to her bedroom I had a choice to make. 1. I could chalk it up to “normal” teenager behavior, or 2. I could compose myself and follow her. Well I personally don’t enjoy the “normal” teenager attitude so I followed her to her bedroom, took a seat on her bed and asked her what she was feeling, the reply I got was “I don’t know”. Well that is not an answer to me so I told her I would sit with her until she could tell me what she was feeling; mad, sad, angry, hurt. I know this takes work as a parent, the thing is if we as parents can help our children express their feelings; we open up communication in the small things and that makes it easier for them to talk about the big things with us. I use this system with each one of my kids, letting them know their feelings are real and o.k. to feel and talk about. I believe if we connect emotionally with our kids we will have stronger relationships with them.
He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
I personally do not enjoy spanking my children, many times I have cried right along side of them after I have had to spank them or do a hold therapy with them. I know by disciplining my children when they are young will be helpful in the future. My children have a respect for authority. I always say I would rather spank and discipline my young children than to leave it to the cops when they get older.
Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not part from it.
I know parenting takes a lot of work, both emotional,and physical. You can choose to withdraw or deposit into your children’s lives.
So we are always trying to make the Bible a resource and fun book to read. I like to buy a bag of Hershey’s Kisses. I then have all my kids get their Bibles. As we gather in our family room, my hubby will call out a book and verse in the Bible, the first one to find it gets a candy tossed to them. Since we have 5 kids and age range of 4-17, we often make teams so the little ones are included. If your kids are not able to read yet, you can teach them a verse and each time they can recite it give them a candy. Lets keep our kids looking up!
I have very strict rules about how we treat one another in our home. Our home needs to be a safe and loving environment. In my book words should make hearts happy and hands should be for caring and loving each other. One of my favorite ways to approach physical violence is by making the 2 children hug each other until they are ready to apologize and treat each other well. We always say sorry and give forgiveness in our home. Mistakes are for learning.
You can never love a baby too much! Take the time to hold, rock, hug, kiss and talk to your baby. Some of the best advice I can give to a new mommy is to follow your gut; you know your baby better than anyone else. Many people will tell you to put the baby in the crib, let him cry it out, take the bottle, take the pacifier away. I say- do what works for you and your baby. You don’t have to be perfect; just show your baby how important and precious he/she is to you.
I am so very excited to have a place to put out my thoughts on God, family, and children. I hope what I say can be a blessing to someone.